Time to Risk More by David Wood

Time to Risk More by David Wood

Time to Risk More
(Note to reader: As always, of course you need to be willing to take all consequences of your actions.)
100 people aged 100 were asked: What do you regret most? What would you do differently?
The majority answered: I wish I had risked more.
We regret the things we don't do, far more than the things we do. Fear STOPS us living. We get a sense of security.... which can be upset at any moment anyway. Control is an illusion - we can't control events. So its a sad joke on us humans that the people who try hardest to live in their comfort zones get upset the most.
Once we accept that we cant control life, and that comfort is not very fulfilling, we are free to risk. What can happen? Rejection, moving into a smaller home, losing our partner, breaking an arm, losing a job we like etc. But above all we fear looking silly, foolish, or failing at something.
What would your life be like if for the past 10 years you had lived without fear?
What if life is a game, and we've forgotten? We attach significance to everything - no I can't ask her out because XXXX, I shouldn't apply for that job - I wouldn't get it. I'm not going to take singing lessons - I'm not any good.
If you feel you are at risk of regretting not fully living your life when you lie on your death bed, I invite you to complete the following exercise:
Optional Exercise: Write down three areas where you play it safe. Pick one area where you are willing to risk more. Play a bigger game. Live LIFE! (Is it dating? Communication - telling the truth ALWAYS! Going on a holiday - backpacking through South America? Making a commitment - moving in/marriage? LEAVING a relationship!!? Pick one, and share it with a friend.
Top Ten Suggestions To Risk More
(Note to reader: As always, of course you need to be willing to take all consequences of your actions.)
1) Tell the truth, regardless of the consequences
2) Say no when you feel no
3) Ask for what you want in your job (e.g. location, pay rise)
4) Go for the job you REALLY want
5) Ask out that guy/girl you REALLY want to go out with
6) Ask for something you REALLY want in your relationship.
7) Move to where you REALLY want to live
8) Say yes to something with an uncertain outcome.
9) Book an adventure outside your comfort zone (e.g. horse riding, white water rafting, sky diving, sailing.)
10) Be vulnerable to someone youre arguing/in conflict with.
Enjoy,
David Wood
David Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful Free Download: '50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of Your Life and Help Your Clients'. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook: "10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets" and his audio ebook: "Getting Your First 50 Clients".
"David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy - a global coach training school"
Copyright 2001-2004 Life Coaching Resource.com


Copyright 2004 SolutionBox and Life Coaching Resource.com


About the Author
David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download 50 Power Questions and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm

How to Coach Yourself by David Wood

How to Coach Yourself by David Wood

How to Coach Yourself
Some people are not in a position to work with a coach right now. Some are stretched financially, while some are still using the lone ranger method. Other people might be uncertain about trying something new.
So here is a brief, simple process I often use with clients that you can apply to you own situation i.e. coach yourself! And at the end of the article I will mention how you can go even further than this using a professional coach.
STEP 1) Clarify your goal
Some of us are not moving forward simply because we have not set a goal that inspires us! Make it specific e.g. 20% increase in income by January 1. And you can stretch yourself, but keep it realistic. If youre blocked, schedule creative time to play with ideas. Dream, cry, challenge. Ask someone. Create it! Dont get hung up on the right goal, just pick something exciting that takes your fancythen trust yourself, and move to Step 2).
STEP 2) Plan
What overall strategy(s) will you use? For example, to lose weight, will your strategy be dietary, exercise based, or a combination? To increase income will you increase your knowledge, switch employers, network, or improve performance. For this stage you will also set your milestones to achieve along the way, with deadlines attached (say every 3-6 months). Also list the tasks to achieve along the way in between milestones.
STEP 3) Action
Once you have the overall plan in place, its time to get down to specific action. You might like to list the action steps you will take in the next 7 days, or the next 30. When you have completed these actions, its time to evaluate, celebrate, and write the next list of action steps.
STEP 4) Structure
Having an idea, or desire is one thing. But many of these do not get achieved. This is probably one reason you are reading this articlebecause there is something in your life you would like to achieve or change, but it hasnt happened yet. Change rarely occurs without a structure in place to support you. For example, if you want to be a public speaker, surround yourself with speakers. Talk a friend into doing your goal with you. Ask someone to check in on you once a fortnight to ask how youre going. Set constant diary reminders for the next month, and/or encouraging visual displays on the wall. Announcing your commitment to the world (all your friends) is also a great structure.
And if youre really serious about your goal, its hard to find a more powerful structure than hiring a coach. Does speaking to someone once a week, and taking time out each week to focus on whats important to you, sound like it might make a difference? You bet!
Enjoy,
David Wood
David Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful Free Download: '50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of Your Life and Help Your Clients'. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook: "10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets" and his audio ebook: "Getting Your First 50 Clients".
"David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy - a global coach training school"
Copyright 2001-2004 Life Coaching Resource.com



Copyright 2004 SolutionBox and Life Coaching Resource.com


About the Author
David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download 50 Power Questions and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm