Forget "Thinking" Outside The Box....GET Outside The Box by Leo J Quinn Jr

Forget "Thinking" Outside The Box....GET Outside The Box by Leo J Quinn Jr

I happened to overhear a conversation the other day between two men

Young man has started learning about real estate investing. He has read books and attended seminars put on by some gurus who make more money selling information about real estate investing than they do investing in real estate BUT at least he is taking the initiative to learn more. This is more than most people will do.

Old man owns his home. Young man wants to buy real estate as an investment.apartment buildings, office buildingsthat type stuff. Old man has o experience in this area. During the conversation old man says to young man"are you doing anymore of that real estate nonsense?"

By "nonsense" I know old man was referring to attending the "get rich quick" type seminars and not a condemnation of real estate investing. BUT it came across as a condemnation of the young mans process of educating himself about something new...something that could improve his life and the lives of his family.

Unfortunately, you probably have people like that in your life. You may BE a person like that in someone elses life. People in your "box" dont want you getting out!

You know the type. Negative about any attempt you might make to improve your lifeto be differentto stand out.to be more successful than they are.

I heard a great analogy for this by attending a free investment seminar. I knew this guy would be advocating some risky financial moves but I figured since I was in the seminar giving business myself, that I might be able to learn something useful. I did.

The people you associate with most are probably just like you. You have similar educational backgrounds, families and incomes.. You live in houses and drive cars of similar value. You attend the same churchyour kids attend the same schoolsyou shop in the same stores. You get the idea.

One could say you are in the same "box" or rut.

The analogy continues...

Unfortunately, the "instructions" on how to get out of your "box" are posted on the "outside" of your "box" where you cant read them. Youll need the help of someone who has already made it out, to "read" you the instructions so you can get out too.

Its not enough to get that help though. Youll probably have to deal with your "boxmates" who would rather you stick around to keep them company in their sad little "box."

In listening to the conversation between old man and young man I immediately flashed on the image of young may starting to climb out of the box and old man reaching up and grabbing him by the belt to pull him back in.

Sad but all too common Im sure. If any of this sounds familiar you might have some hard decisions to make.

If completely getting rid of a negative person from your life is not possible (spouse, relative, employer) then you might have to clam up about your goals, dreams and desires. Discuss them only with people who will support you or preferably with people who have already done what you want to do.

Author Dan Kennedy has coined the phrase "mediocre majority" to describe most people. This is a group you want to avoid.

So, no matter what you want to accomplish, be it changing your life to get out of debtstarting a businessgoing back to school (imagine at your age!)investing in real estatemystery shoppinglosing weighttaking piano lessons or anything else, simply get started and keep the pie hole shut! (salad hole if losing weight)

Good luck!


About the Author
Leo J. Quinn, Jr. owner of www.LeoQuinn.com is a financial educator from the Albany, NY area. For over eight years he has been helping thousands of people get control of their finances and get out of debt in a fraction of the normal time. He has a special offer for readers of this newsletter at http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/adtrack.asp?AdID=132551

You Don't Have To Do It Forever by Heather J. Tait

You Don't Have To Do It Forever by Heather J. Tait

Everyone has to do things they dont want to do from time to time, if not every day. For some going to work or dealing with certain people can be situations that you dont find pleasurable, but yet you have to encounter the situation on a daily basis. Maybe you have a co-worker that you disagree with or a relative you have differences with. Whatever the situation may be, due to circumstances beyond your control, you have to encounter them.
We can either react to the situation or we can sit back and take a moment to put things in perspective. Reacting can sometimes worsen the incident. Sometimes a moment of silence or even a smile can make dealing with a difficult situation more manageable
Not all situations benefit from silence. Sometimes we need to address issues that disturb us and talk things out with either a confidant or even the person you have issues with directly. The key is to take the time out to examine our feelings and motives. Reacting out of anger instead of a loving position can leave scars. So take the time to know what you are saying before you say it.
But for moments when you are unable to remove yourself from the situation, know that you dont have to do it forever. When we look at situations in increments we are able to realize that all things are limited by time. Knowing that you dont have to do something forever makes the current moment more livable and more manageable.

About the Author
Artist and Inspirational Author Heather J. Tait work and articles are displayed internationally. She is the founder of Silence Speaks International Artist Association and the Editor of Intrigue Magazine. Published books include, Making Your Purpose Your Business and Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships. Email: contact@silencespeaks.com Silence Speaks http://www.silencespeaks.com

The Release by Heather J. Tait

The Release by Heather J. Tait

Some people choose to live life differently from that of ourselves. This goes for children, adults, and people in general. Sometimes this doesn't always leave a lot of room for compromise especially if it is a loved one that chooses a different path. Like every path, it is composed of choice, both positive and negative. Some people choose to live honest good lives and some people choose to be self destructive and confined to their own self will. Regardless, it is their choice and their decision to live the way they want.
What if you see someone's path headed for a dead end? Well you can at first bring this to their attention if they wish for your opinion. But after that, they are really on their own and the only thing you can do is let them discover consequence for themselves. Sometimes more action is required on your own part especially if their destructive behavior begins to affect your personal well being. In this instance you have two choices, either participate or not.
Perhaps it is considered easier to participate being that you don't have to address the conflict head on. Many people choose this way of thinking and suffer the emotional turmoil that comes along with it. We can't always have our hands on the strings of another's life, keeping them from falling to the ground. Sometimes that very behavior in itself prolongs our loved ones agony, because they never reach their bottom, and never recognize their mistake.
Choosing to not participate is a very difficult task, one that requires great strength and adamancy. You have to first address the issue to the person affecting you, address their behavior, and then address the action that you are going to take for yourself. Everyone has boundaries, but it is up to us to express them to the person that has crossed them. Nobody is a mind reader and for even those that are, our interpretations can be misinterpreted. Say what you mean and as a follow up, follow through with what you say. This may be very difficult, especially if it means not contacting the person.
But in some instances this is the best way to give someone the space they need to really see for themselves where they are going and what type of lives they are living. Some will "see" and others will spiral down into the life choices they made. What is important here though is that you protected your "self" and your "well being" from being affected by their destructive path and behavior. It doesn't mean you have to love them any less, it just means that you are loving them at a safe distance.

About the Author
Artist and Inspirational Author Heather J. Tait work and articles are displayed internationally. She is the founder of Silence Speaks International Artist Association and the Editor of Intrigue Magazine. Published books include, Making Your Purpose Your Business and Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships. Email: contact@silencespeaks.com Silence Speaks http://www.silencespeaks.com